 Thursday, August 25, 2005 |
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By Whoosh 2 @ 9:49 am 
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Interviewer: Ungaludhu Love marriage aa, illai arranged marriage aa??
Couple: Engaludhu Love cum arranged marriage.. **giggle**
So, how many of us have heard this dialogue.. "Engaludhu love cum arranged marriage".. Trust me, I have never understood the logic behind this statement. Last week I went to Tirupathi to attend a friend's wedding. His was an arranged marriage, alright... But there I met one of his friends who, I heard, was going to get married soon..
Vikkki: Orey, Neeku pelli anaaru.. Eppudu ra? ( I heard you are getting married, when is it?)
Friend:November-lo ra..
Vikkki: Okay Cheppu.. Needhi love marriage aa ledhante arranged marriage aa? (Arranged or Love marriage???)
Friend: Naadhi Love cum arranged marriage ra.. (Arranged come love marriage man!!!)
Now for the love of God, what does that mean.. According to him it means where u love the girl; u tell your parents and u get married with their approval - That, apparently, is the meaning of Love cum arranged marriage.
So in that context, am I to infer that a love marriage is one where u love a girl, elope with her and get married?? Doesnt this spoil the sanctity of a love marriage???? Come on...
As far as I am concerned, Love cum Arranged marriage has a different dimension to it.. Let us say that you are in love with a female and she loves u too (female readers are kindly requested to invert the gender wherever appropriate). Now, both of u are shit-scared to tell your parents about it as you dont know what the outcome would be.. At the same time, the parents who are looking out for a proper match for their son lay their hands (by sheer coincidence) on their son's lover's photo from a kalyaana tharagar. They like the girl; they meet the gir's parents and the marriage happens... So the lovers have succeeded in their love without their parents ever knowing about it.. This for me is the best description of a "Love cum Arranged Marriage"...
And talking about Love marriages.. Well, I'd rather not talk about it.. Things are not too *good* in my part of the world with some heated exchanges happening.. So, I'll defer this for some other post... :)
Happy Marrying!
Vikkki |
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Looks like you are thinking too much! Anyway, how come eloped marriages lack sanctity? If parents don't agree and two adults still decide to get married and spend their lives together isn't that good enough? Where does the lack of sanctity come in here?
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ஏன் ஏன் ஏன்... இப்படி கலக்கற... பாவம் அந்த பையன்...
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WA,
All that I am trying to say is that an eloped situation aint the only one.. Even if it is a love marriage with parents approval, it should still be called a "love marriage" and not a "love cum arranged"
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Precisely my point.. It just doesnt happen that way.. So, this "love cum arranged" stuff is total bull crap!
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@Venkat: Dai, ennada un tamil editor nalla work pannudhu pola..
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Yeah..true...The concept of arranged marriages is truly crap..But wat to do..being in India and in TN...u cant expect ur parents to be like in western countries..nice blog..
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Vikkki seriyaana politician pola nee. You are the one who said something about love marriages lacking sanctity! Now you are trying to confuse me. Agree with you on the love cum arranged marriage rubbish though.
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happy marrying to u too, Vikkki :)
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ரொம்ப நல்லாவே வர்க் பண்ணும்... ட்ரய் பண்ணி பாரு...
"http://www.myjavaserver.com/~linguist/tamil.htm"
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Yeah! This "L+A" thing is basless!!:)
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Appo arranged marriage pannaravanga ellam love pannarthu illa tellings-a?? :D
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@Shankari: Dont get me wrong.. I wasnt talking abt Arranged marriages at all.. It is the misnomer "Arranged cum Love" that I was criticizing!
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WA,
"Vikkki seriyaana politician pola nee. You are the one who said something about love marriages lacking sanctity!
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I never said it lacked sanctity.. I said that statements made make love marriages lack sanctity that they would actually deserve!
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@Insomniaz: I have sent u a mail da! Reply pannu :)
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@Harish: U are too young man! :D
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VJ:
That is called "kolaithanam" on the part of the guy .. haha!
(the same story happened to one of my friend's recently.. so it aint totally bollywood style) :D
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@Viji: SK kandukka maatan oru nambikkai thaan.. seemed a nice fellow to mistake such stupid things.. wat say..
and ur scenario.. I would still classify that under arranged marriage.. Arranged marriage kku appram love varalanna adhu marriage-e illai! :)
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@Praveen: Raasa, enakku sathiyamaa puriyala pa!
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machi ..odi poi kalyanam panurathey le oru thrill irrukumnu naa ninaikiran. but parents prefer arranged marriage. so am thinking about both luv n arranged marriage...rendu vera vera ponnu .ethukku peru enna da?
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@Jagan: Adhukku peru Mollamaarithanam..
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unakku love marriage eh illa arranged marriage eh illa love-cum-arranged-marriage eh???
I guess you are all set for any of the above!
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unakku love marriage eh illa arranged marriage eh illa love-cum-arranged-marriage eh???
I guess you are all set for any of the above!
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@DV: yeah yeah yeah... (3 yeahs for all each of the three types!)
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Looks like you are thinking too much! Anyway, how come eloped marriages lack sanctity? If parents don't agree and two adults still decide to get married and spend their lives together isn't that good enough? Where does the lack of sanctity come in here?